Paul KeenanThe Archdiocese of Dublin is discouraging the non-traditional practice of placing mementoes on coffins among new policies around the conduct of funerals.
In a new Funeral Ministry document, the diocese states that “a relatively new custom, which is not strictly part of the Funeral Rites, is the presentation of mementoes of the person who has died symbolising aspects of their life, work, interests, achievements etc…these are not gifts and so are unsuitable for the Offertory Procession”.
The document suggests instead that “these can be placed on a ‘table of remembrance’ placed in the sanctuary or near the coffin”.
In addition to such tangible elements of the funeral, the Funeral Ministry document also deals with the practice of eulogising the deceased.
“While it is not actually a part of the Christian Funeral Rite, a custom has begun at some funerals whereby a eulogy or an appreciation of the person is given by a relative or friend of the deceased,” the diocese states, adding that “sensitivity has to be exercised around this.”
Tribute
Any such tribute “on behalf of the family” should, the document says “be brief [and] should only contain words of tribute to the deceased and of thanks to those who have helped and supported the family”.
Such a tribute, the guidance continues, is not always best delivered by “an immediate family member” who may not be used to public speaking, and quite naturally, may be overcome with grief.
The principal aim with the new guidelines, the archdiocese states is “to improve, where possible, the ministry of accompaniment and consolation to the bereaved, and the dignified and worthy celebration of the Funeral Rites”.
The Funeral Ministry document concludes by pointing users to www.dublindiocese.ie for a range of aids for those preparing a funeral, from sacred readings, sample funeral services, and resources for Funeral Ministry teams.
The Funeral Ministry Document can be found at http://www.dublindiocese.ie/funer al-ministry-guidelines/