Praise comes less easy than criticism

Parenting Matters Even psychologists have referral patterns. January and February are the months when I get more behaviour-related questions for children than any other time. Winter must be the explanation. Most of us find it hard going and we are not quite in sight of spring but the distraction of Christmas is well behind us.…

Getting the balance right

As you look forward to the year ahead, I am sure that like many others you have made resolutions and hope to keep to at least some of them. Parents have a the most responsible job in the world because your every action, gesture and word impacts on your children. When you stop to think…

If you can, stop for a moment and think about the Christmas presents you have bought for your children and those which have been asked of Santa. Ask yourself what these presents are going to do. Of course, they come with love and that is message enough in one way because we all want our…

Teens need to switch off screens in bed

Psychologists are trained from the earliest days of their studies to respect and love statistics. We are trained to keep an eye on trends and patterns. One way of doing this is through research. It informs our thinking and practice about what works for whom. Psychologists in clinical practice tend to note the frequency of…

Parents should trust their instincts

Readers of this column will be familiar with a perspective that encourages strong self-awareness to promote positive parenting and good problem solving skill development in children. It is hard work being a parent and no parent I know gets it right all the time. The acid test of an excellent parent is getting it right…